“If you want to trace what he said to me back to your self, go right ahead. But you’re wrong. You aren’t responsible for anything that she does. She’s too dependant on you and you’ve realized that and stepped up to try to meet her needs. Your co-dependancy kicked in and now you still want to help her instead of doing what’s best for both of you: stop talking to each other. You won’t have her pulling you down like that. If you guys did stop talking, I know it’d be difficult for both of you, but she’ll get over and so will you. You aren’t responsible for a single thing she does. It’s not your job to take care of her. It’s all really petty and pathetic that she just moved into college and she’s got this whole new opportunity and fresh start and she needs to get the bleep away from you.”
“But I know she’s going to kill herself. I know it. I ……. I’ve talked her back from it three times now…….”
“Look, she’s either serious about killing herself or she just wants attention. I’m believing more of the latter. She seems like the type who is MANIPULATING YOU for attention!”
How do you know if some one is serious or not about suicide and not just talking about it for attention? When do you know to back off and let them get over being so attached to you and when they’re serious and take action?
Should you talk to some one every single time they bring up committing suicide regardless if it’s only for attention, just in case? And indulge in your co-dependancy and their needy-ness? Even if you have reason to believe that it’s for attention? How do you know if they’re actually serious?
Or should you let it go, making the call that they are just being manipulative and will move on eventually? What if you end up being proven wrong?
What do you do in a manipulative relationship when the other person threatens to commit suicide? How do you get out of that?
What the heck are you supposed to do?